Relationships can be super tricky. Whether they are friendships, family relationships, or romantic relationships, I’m sure you have faced some struggles with relationships at one point or another.
I wanted to do a series on how to have God-honoring relationships with those around us – family, friends, and romantic relationships! The goal of this series is to encourage you to build all your relationships around Christ and His Word.
Today’s post is going to be all about your family. Let’s dive in!
How to Have God-Honoring Relationships with Your Family
Family – sometimes they can seem like a burden, while they are truly one of God’s greatest gifts.
Our parents are a huge blessing, and we must respect them; but don’t just take my word for it. Here are a couple Scriptures on this topic.
Ephesians 6:2-3 // “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with a promise: “that it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth.”
Exodus 20:12 // “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which Yahweh your God gives you.
The topic of honoring your parents is a continual theme in Scripture. The reason that we must choose to honor our parents is because, well, they are our parents. God gave them to us to help guide and protect us, and they have a big role in our lives that demands respect.
These verses tell us that when we honor our parents, it will be well with us and we’ll live long on the earth. Keep in mind this is not the reason we honor our parents, but a wonderful benefit. Our parents 99 times out of 100 know what it best for us, and their guidelines keep us from trouble, just like God’s Word does with us. *Unless of course you have abusive parents, I’m talking about most parents and Godly parents*
Choosing to honor your parents is not always easy. Not all of us have Godly parents, and no parent is perfect. Sometimes it will seem like our parents are being unreasonable and don’t know what they are talking about, and it is tempting in those times to lash out or say/do something against them.
However, God calls us to honor our parents’ position and respect them. He has placed them above us and it is because of God that they have been given the position of parenting. We need to show them the respect and honor they deserve.
I encourage you to think about how you act in regards to your parents. Do you do what they tell you to do without complaining, and in a timely manner? Do you listen to and honor their advice and input, and think about the things they say to you? Do you follow the guidelines they have put in place?
Obviously, none of us are perfect, and can only honor our parents and have God-honoring relationships with them by God’s power and for His glory. I encourage you to come to the Father and pray and surrender to Him. Ask Him for the strength to respect the parents He has given you.
Day by day, strive to be a better child. Whether you live with your parents or not, they have been given their role for a reason. Respect their wisdom. Honor their position. Even when they seem unreasonable, choose to obey them as long as what they are asking you to do isn’t against God’s Word and your convictions based on His Word.
Many of us have siblings as well as parents, and if you do, you know that it isn’t always easy to get along with them. Siblings oftentimes butt heads or have differing ideas, and like to point that out for some reason (I should know, I am a sibling, and have done this at times… ;)).
If you are a sibling like me, I encourage you to strive for unity and love in your relationship with your siblings. When you have disagreements, work to solve them peacefully, and ask your parent to help if needed.
Whether you think so or not, siblings are like built in best friends! I know it is NOT easy to get along with them every hour of every day, but the key is this: striving to have unity, not discord. This is something I know I need to work on. It can be hard and even awkward to live in love to your siblings, but it’s what we are called to do! We are called to love our neighbors as ourselves, and this includes our siblings, as difficult as they can be.
Sometimes it can be easy to respect our teachers and other adults in our lives, but not our parents. It can also be easy to love our friends, but not our siblings. As previously mentioned, God’s Word tells us to love our neighbor as ourselves. This means ALL.
Family is a gift from God. Here are a couple verses to end this post and to encourage you in having Godly relationships with your family!
Proverbs 1:8-9 // My son, listen to your father’s instruction, and don’t forsake your mother’s teaching: for they will be a garland to grace your head, and chains around your neck.
Mark 12:28-31 // One of the scribes came, and heard them questioning together. Knowing that he had answered them well, asked him, “Which commandment is the greatest of all?”Jesus answered, “The greatest is, ‘Hear, Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one: you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment. The second is like this, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”
- How do you struggle in honoring your parents and getting along with your siblings?
- How can you apply these truths to your life and start having more Godly relationships with your family?