Why I’ve Never Been on a Date

Hi, I’m Caitlyn, I’m in my upper teen years, and I’ve never been on a date. I’ve never even been asked on one!

Many people will think you’re crazy if you’ve never been on a date by your late teen years, & young adult years. For the world, it’s normal for teens/young adults to have multiple significant others throughout the years. But, is it healthy? Does dating around honor God?

I have never been on a date, and there are multiple reasons for that:

I have never been on a date for a few reasons:

  • I am not yet ready for marriage
  • I haven’t been asked on a date
  • I haven’t met any guys who I feel God would call me to spend the rest of my life with starting now
  • My parents taught me not to date around like the world does

I’m a firm believer in purposeful dating. I don’t believe that we should merely “date around” for the purpose of dating someone. When we enter a dating relationship, it should be with the purpose of marriage in mind. We should be dating someone asking the question, “Would I marry this person?” A good & God-honoring dating relationship doesn’t start just because you think someone is attractive and good-looking. It starts when you both realize that God wants you to enter a relationship with each other, and your motives are to honor Him, not gratify your selfish desires.

Before I go on, I want to let you know that wherever you are, whatever you’ve done, God forgives and you can start walking with Him. If you’ve messed up in any way, even in terms of love & romance, you can start over, friend. Come to Him & He will make you new & help you to see dating & romance in a brand-new, Biblical, wonderful way. You can move on. He can forgive you. You can walk in His Truth & it is a beautiful thing! You’re never too far gone.

Dating is a controversial topic, and all relationships look different. Because of what I’ve learned from God’s Word and good books on love & romance, I only want to date when I am ready for marriage, the other person is ready for marriage, our parents have “okayed” the relationship, and we both feel that God is calling us to date one another.

Read these awesome passages:

Colossians 3:17 // Whatever you do, in word or in deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father, through him.

Proverbs 11:14 // Where there is no wise guidance, the nation falls, but in the multitude of counselors there is victory.

When entering into a dating relationship, I want to make sure my parents have met the guy & are ok with the relationship. I hope to know the guy fairly well & trust that he is serving God wholeheartedly and we have similar worldviews according to God’s Word. Above all, I want the relationship to be wholly built on God & honoring to Him.

A dating relationship should be entered into with the purpose of honoring God. When you enter into a relationship with selfish motives, things will go downhill. When a guy & girl hope to have their needs met & their reputations made better by a relationship with each other, they have the wrong motives. I hope to one day, if/when the Lord brings the right man into my life, be able to enter a relationship to serve each other & find out if we should marry one another. 

I encourage you, if you are single like me, keep praying & trusting in God. Spend this season learning to be fully content in God ALONE. Some of us may be called to singleness not just for a season, but for our whole lives, or for an extended time. Ask yourself, would I be content if I was single my whole life? 

Seeking and serving God is the point of this life, not having a spouse. Although marriage is a wonderful & beautiful gift God has given us, it’s not what we live for. God is the One who fulfills our hearts’ desires and needs, and only He satisfies. No guy can ever fill the hole in your heart that God was made to fill.

I’ve never been on a date. Why? Because God hasn’t called me to date yet, and I’m not ready for it yet. I am waiting for the right time & the right person, & I know God will provide. Love is a wonderful, beautiful, and AMAZING thing that I look forward to! But I’m striving to focus on being content in God alone, and I pray you will too, in every season of life. ❤


27 thoughts on “Why I’ve Never Been on a Date

  1. Good post. 🙂 I am in the same situation as you. I have never been on a date, nor asked out. And when that timing does come I want to take it seriously and not just date for fun. But in all honesty, I am not sure I would. I have had trouble with friends my whole life. Right now I am struggling with making friends and being myself around others…so if a boy suddenly showed interest in me and wanted to go out. I would probably really want to even if I wasn’t I love…just because I would want that attention. But I know that is SO wrong. So I really need to work on that and spend more time in the Word and praying for God to help me find all my satisfaction in him alone. 🙂
    Sorry for that rant. 😛 ❤ ❤

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  2. Hi Caitlyn!

    Amen, sister! I am also in my upper teen years and have never been asked out on a date. I’ve learned to be okay with that, even if there are super Godly, honorable, Christian guys around. As Don Sunukjian said, “God controls the movements!”

    When the time is right, God will do His thing (work in the guy’s hearts and show them the stuff they need to know) as we (ladies) continue to pursue the Lord! That is so beautiful to think about! This was a very Jamie Grace style post! Do you know of her?

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    • Aww thanks sweet girl, all glory to God! So glad you enjoyed this! YES, He always knows what is best & will provide exactly what we need, when we need it! Amen amen. 🙂 Yes, I’ve heard of her but haven’t seen much of her videos! Aww thanks for comparing me to her haha! ❤

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    • Thanks girl, all glory to God! Many date around because they are looking for satisfaction & fulfillment in the wrong things, and not God. The world certainly needs to know that only He can fill us!

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  3. I agree with you one hundred percent, Caitlyn! In this season of life, when I have several friends dating super awesome, godly, young men, and have really started looking forward to finding my life partner, I am learning more and more about what it means to be in love with Jesus – delighting in Him and letting Him alone meet all my needs. An awesome thing about being in love with Jesus is that, when the guy the Lord has for us does come along, we don’t have to give up Jesus! And being in the practice of relying on Him alone to meet our needs and fulfill our desires will help us so much when we finally do enter into that relationship and find out Prince Charming isn’t perfect! Besides, God has promised, “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 34:7) Thank you for the encouragement, Caitlyn!

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    • Aww thanks for reading & sharing, Kelanie! Wow, that’s really cool that God is helping you be content in Him alone throughout this season, praise Him. ❤So so true, amen! We’ll always have Him in our lives, when our husbands fail/die, He’ll always remain & satisfy all the needs of our hearts. Such a good verse too! He aligns our hearts to desire more of Him & it’s so cool. Of course, all glory to God!


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