Hi, I’m Caitlyn, I’m in my upper teen years, and I’ve never been on a date. I’ve never even been asked on one!
Many people will think you’re crazy if you’ve never been on a date by your late teen years, & young adult years. For the world, it’s normal for teens/young adults to have multiple significant others throughout the years. But, is it healthy? Does dating around honor God?
I have never been on a date, and there are multiple reasons for that:
I have never been on a date for a few reasons:
- I am not yet ready for marriage
- I haven’t been asked on a date
- I haven’t met any guys who I feel God would call me to spend the rest of my life with starting now
- My parents taught me not to date around like the world does
I’m a firm believer in purposeful dating. I don’t believe that we should merely “date around” for the purpose of dating someone. When we enter a dating relationship, it should be with the purpose of marriage in mind. We should be dating someone asking the question, “Would I marry this person?” A good & God-honoring dating relationship doesn’t start just because you think someone is attractive and good-looking. It starts when you both realize that God wants you to enter a relationship with each other, and your motives are to honor Him, not gratify your selfish desires.
Before I go on, I want to let you know that wherever you are, whatever you’ve done, God forgives and you can start walking with Him. If you’ve messed up in any way, even in terms of love & romance, you can start over, friend. Come to Him & He will make you new & help you to see dating & romance in a brand-new, Biblical, wonderful way. You can move on. He can forgive you. You can walk in His Truth & it is a beautiful thing! You’re never too far gone.
Dating is a controversial topic, and all relationships look different. Because of what I’ve learned from God’s Word and good books on love & romance, I only want to date when I am ready for marriage, the other person is ready for marriage, our parents have “okayed” the relationship, and we both feel that God is calling us to date one another.
Read these awesome passages:
Colossians 3:17 // Whatever you do, in word or in deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father, through him.
Proverbs 11:14 // Where there is no wise guidance, the nation falls, but in the multitude of counselors there is victory.
When entering into a dating relationship, I want to make sure my parents have met the guy & are ok with the relationship. I hope to know the guy fairly well & trust that he is serving God wholeheartedly and we have similar worldviews according to God’s Word. Above all, I want the relationship to be wholly built on God & honoring to Him.
A dating relationship should be entered into with the purpose of honoring God. When you enter into a relationship with selfish motives, things will go downhill. When a guy & girl hope to have their needs met & their reputations made better by a relationship with each other, they have the wrong motives. I hope to one day, if/when the Lord brings the right man into my life, be able to enter a relationship to serve each other & find out if we should marry one another.
I encourage you, if you are single like me, keep praying & trusting in God. Spend this season learning to be fully content in God ALONE. Some of us may be called to singleness not just for a season, but for our whole lives, or for an extended time. Ask yourself, would I be content if I was single my whole life?
Seeking and serving God is the point of this life, not having a spouse. Although marriage is a wonderful & beautiful gift God has given us, it’s not what we live for. God is the One who fulfills our hearts’ desires and needs, and only He satisfies. No guy can ever fill the hole in your heart that God was made to fill.
I’ve never been on a date. Why? Because God hasn’t called me to date yet, and I’m not ready for it yet. I am waiting for the right time & the right person, & I know God will provide. Love is a wonderful, beautiful, and AMAZING thing that I look forward to! But I’m striving to focus on being content in God alone, and I pray you will too, in every season of life. ❤