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Praying for your future husband is something that is so exciting and wonderful for us as single women to do. We get to pray for the one that we’ll one day be married to, and already honor him, although we haven’t entered into a relationship with him yet.
Why is it important to pray for your future husband, you might wonder? Well, there’s a few reasons why, and I want to share them with you today. 🙂
By praying for your future husband now, as a single woman, you are able to come beside him and honor and support him in serving the Lord.
Proverbs 31:11-12 tells us: The heart of her husband trusts in her. He shall have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. (emphasis mine)
Isn’t it interesting that Solomon said that this woman does good to her husband ALL the days of her life? Obviously she wasn’t married when she came out of the womb. 😉 I think what he’s getting at is that the Proverbs 31 woman strove for purity and honored her future husband, even before they met.
One way we can do good to our future husbands, even now as single women, is by praying for them. I pray for my future husband, as well as my own growth, once a week; I also recently started journalling prayers for my future husband, and sometimes for myself as well, and I LOVE doing that! Find what ways & times work best for *you* & be intentional.
Another important reason for praying for your future husband is because it helps you keep walking in purity. Whether or not you ever get married, you’ll remember that it’s important to wait on the Lord, and not go chasing after every single guy that you long to date. It helps keep your heart focused on what matters – honoring the Lord and growing in Him.
So, we know WHY it’s important to pray for our future husbands, but it can be confusing to know what to pray for. When praying for him, I encourage you to ask yourself, what kind of heart is important in a future husband? What kind of character qualities & worldview and “non-negotiables” should I be praying over him? Things like a hot body and curly hair won’t matter when you both are 60 years old. Think about his heart, his motives, his passion, his love for God. A few things I pray over my future husband are:
- That he’d have a deep, personal, and growing relationship with God
- That he’d put God first
- That he’d be pure from idols & lust of all sorts
- That he’d be passionate and unashamed for the Lord & the gospel
- That he’d follow God and His leading every day
Of course, God cares about our wants and desires. If you long for a man with curly hair and ice-y blue eyes, give those desires to the Lord. Whether or not you end up getting married to man with these features, you will know that you surrendered them to God and He did what was best. Focus on the inward part of your future husband, and surrender all to the Lord. Always remember: good looks fade, but a heart for God does not. 1 Samuel 16:7b says: For man looks at the outward appearance, but Yahweh looks at the heart.”
I encourage you to make a list of things to pray over your future husband, as well as yourself. We want to pray for our future husband to be strong & following wholeheartedly after God, but we need to pray over our lives too. Think about character issues you need to work on, qualities you hope to have as a wife one day, and other various things in your life. Making prayer lists to pray over is super helpful!
As previously mentioned, you can also journal your prayers. This is fun, because it really helps me focus on what I’m praying; also, my prayers are all in one notebook, and my future husband can read them one day.
The amazing Jenny from Little Faith Blog has a calendar for February, with prompts for praying for your future husband every day of the month. I’ve loved it so far! If you’d like to check that out, click here.
I hope that you will intentionally make time in your schedule to regularly pray for your future husband. It’s such a blessing to be able to pray over him even now!