Last week on Instagram I asked my followers to send in questions for a Youtube Q&A! You all sent in some amazing & deep questions, and I answered them ALL in today’s Youtube video! I talked favorite worship songs, my thoughts on dating/kissing before your wedding, productivity, & MORE! Click the link below to check out the video.
Temptation is something that all of us face. James 1:13-15 gives us some insight as to where temptation comes from:
Let no man say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God,” for God can’t be tempted by evil, and he himself tempts no one. But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own lust, and enticed. Then the lust, when it has conceived, bears sin; and the sin, when it is full grown, produces death.
This passages shows us that temptation comes from lust (NKJV says desires), and lust then turns into sin. Death comes from following those temptations & being enticed by our lusts. We might then wonder, where does lust come from? I believe that it comes from the enemy. Lust is part of our sinful nature; when we become Christ’s and die to our sinful nature, the enemy still tries to creep in with sinful thoughts.
Jesus said in John 10:10: “The thief only comes to steal, kill, and destroy. I came that they may have life, and may have it abundantly.” What I’m getting at is that our enemy, the devil, wants to steal, kill, and destroy us. He will oftentimes do so through our thoughts, and temptation.
Again, temptation is something we all face. Lustful and sinful thoughts, it happens to us all, including ME. We aren’t perfect, because the enemy often will try to plant these thoughts in our head. If we aren’t careful, and end up following our temptation, this will lead to death. I don’t say this to scare you, but to make you more aware & to help you fight the fight of faith.
Because temptation is real & comes from thoughts from the enemy, today I want to share a few tips to help you battle temptation.
Seek God FIRST & Arm Yourself with His Truth
Seeking God first is so vitally important in our relationship with Him and battling temptation. When we daily set aside time to get in the Word and in prayer & worship, our mind becomes focused on what truly matters.
1 Thessalonians 5:17 tells us to pray without ceasing. It’s super important to have a designated time to pray & read the Word every day, as well as to pray/worship/meditate on God’s Word throughout the day. This will help us keep our minds on things above (Colossians 3:2), and cast our cares on Him.
We need to daily be arming ourselves with truth and the WHOLE armor of God (found in Ephesians 6:10-20),by getting in His presence daily. I hope and pray you will designate a time of day to spend time with the Lord, as well as strive to set your mind on Him throughout the day. Seeking Him first & setting your mind on Him is the first step in having victory over temptation.
John 8:31-32 // Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, “If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, andthe truth shall make you free.”
Without boundaries, we will more likely do things we know are wrong. Think about this example: if a girl hangs out with guys in God-honoring group settings and makes a point not to be in one-on-one/tempting situations with guys, she will be protecting herself from giving into temptation as well as protecting her purity and that of her guy friends.
Boundaries can apply to various temptations you might face – temptations to be on your phone all day, to eat junk food, to be lazy, etc. Strive to set boundaries from what you will and won’t do, and stick to them by God’s strength. Obviously, we will still mess up; but we can always come to God and repent and turn from sin and start again.
Setting boundaries means nothing unless we daily look to Him for strength. He is the strength in your weakness; surrender all to Him, look to the Lord for the power to resist temptation. Don’t live in guilt when you mess up; genuinely repent and start again.
2 Corinthians 12:9 // And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
1 Corinthians 16:13 // Watch! Stand firm in the faith! Be courageous! Be strong!
Be Alert – Fight the Enemy & Claim Victory
We have an enemy and he wants to knock us down; he wants to steal, kill, and destroy our souls (see John 10:10). I’m not saying this to scare you, friends, but to remind you to be on guard.
1 Peter 5:8 says: “Be sober and self-controlled. Be watchful. Your adversary, the devil, walks around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.” Just because someone is a Christian and sets Godly boundaries, doesn’t mean they won’t still face temptation. I have, and still do, face tempting thoughts at times and things that I know are from the enemy. It happens to everyone, which is why we must fight and claim victory in Jesus’ Name.
We have the power through Jesus to rebuke and reject the enemy and tell him to leave our minds and our lives. Lately I’ve been doing this daily as I face any thoughts that aren’t of God, and it has helped me greatly. I encourage you to vocally command the enemy to leave you alone in the Name of Jesus and to claim victory, as well as pray throughout the day – praising God, giving Him your struggles and sinful thoughts, etc.
Romans 8:11 // But if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you.
Politely Decline Others When You Need To
When others are telling and tempting you to do something you KNOW is wrong, you need to flee. Sometimes, the only thing you can do is leave. Politely decline others when you need to. Just say NO. Even if it means looking weird in the eyes of others, it is worth it to protect yourself from sin.
We should befriend and love on and show Jesus to unbelievers, but make sure they aren’t your best friends who influence you. 2 Corinthians 6:14 says: “Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
Know that it’s okay to distance yourself from friends who aren’t saved who are dragging you away from righteousness. In some occasions, if you have friends who consistently try to drag you away from righteousness, you may need to break up with those friends. Prayerfully evaluate your friendships and learn to say no when you need to.
I hope these tips encourage you in your battle over temptation & the devil. In Jesus you have victory. ❤
I’m so blessed to be on the book launch team for Taylor Bennett’s upcoming book, Sand Castle dreams! Look how gorgeous the cover is!
The book releases on April 1st, and I’m so excited! I read the first book in the series, Porch Swing Girl (read my review here) and I know this book will be amazing as well. Go check it out! I recommend this series to all teen girls & young women out there; it is all pure and Bible based (there is some romance and a couple kisses on the cheek, but that’s the only thing I found that some people might be concerned by), and the story is so fun and inspiring. The characters are so sweet and relatable! 🙂
Contentment in God alone can be tough to focus on in your daily life, ya feel me? We have so many distractions, and guys can easily be one of them. It’s easy for us girls to be so focused on guys or things of this world, that we place our hope and contentment in things other than the Lord.
The truth is, only God can satisfy our hearts. When we place our hope in other things, we’ll always be dissatisfied.
Have you ever found yourself jealous of other girls who have boyfriends or are getting married?
Have you ever found yourself placing your hope and joy in the ONE DAY when you’ll meet “the one?”
These thoughts are completely normal for us girls to face, so please don’t think you have a problem if you’ve thought these things. The problem is when we let these thoughts consume our minds, and we place our contentment in whether/not we have a guy, or even in other things like friends and social events, etc.
The question is, HOW do we find our contentment in Christ alone, when we so easily place it in other places? I want to share a few ways with you girls today.
Praying for your future husband is something that is so exciting and wonderful for us as single women to do. We get to pray for the one that we’ll one day be married to, and already honor him, although we haven’t entered into a relationship with him yet.
Why is it important to pray for your future husband, you might wonder? Well, there’s a few reasons why, and I want to share them with you today. 🙂
Guy friendships can be complicated – it can be tough to know how far into the friendship we can go before travelling down a road that could lead us to having unwanted feelings for each other/being in sinful or tempting situations.
I believe guy friendships are wonderful & important. However, I also believe there’s a balance that we, as Christian girls and young women, need to strive for. We shouldn’t refrain from guy friendships altogether because they’re too complicated, and we shouldn’t have super tight-knit guy friendships who we share everything with, because that can lead to intimacy that neither of us intended for.
What is this balance? Well, it’s different for everyone, and please don’t think I’m trying to force you to legalistically follow these boundaries. In this post, I want to dig into a few ways to have God-honoring friendships with guys. Let’s go!
Hang out With Guys in Groups
It can be easier for feelings to develop for a young fella when we hang out with them one-on-one. Personally, I believe that it’s super important that we focus on hanging out with guys in group settings, where there is a good mix of guys and girls. This will help keep unwanted feelings and tempting/sinful situations from arising.
Evaluate the situations you’re in with guys – are you together alone? Are you both in places where you would be tempted to sin? Strive to promote purity for yourself and for the guys you know. Hanging out with guys in groups helps to keep temptation as well as thoughts/feelings deeper than friendship at bay. No, it won’t necessarily rid us of all temptation and feelings, but it’s an important way to promote your own purity and the purity of your guy friends.
Colossians 3:5-6 // Put to death therefore your members which are on the earth: sexual immorality, uncleanness, depraved passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry; 6for which things’ sake the wrath of God comes on the children of disobedience.
When you’re with guys it can be tempting to be flirtatious to get their attention. However, we are called to honor God in all we do, and flirting puts the attention on us rather than God. Read & think about the following scripture:
Whatever you do, in word or in deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father, through him. – Colossians 3:17 (emphasis mine)
Take a moment to ponder about & evaluate how you are acting around guys – is it the same that you act around your girl friends/family? It might be different in some ways, and that’s ok. But are you always trying to get guys’ attention by being flirtatious, even in subtle ways? I know it’s easy to want attention from guys, as well as to unknowingly flirt. That is why, in every conversation, we must be careful that we are drawing attention to God, not to ourselves.
Philippians 2:3-4 gives us some encouraging truth: “doing nothing through rivalry or through conceit, but in humility, each counting others better than himself; each of you not just looking to his own things, but each of you also to the things of others.” (emphasis mine) We are called to do nothing out of vanity, but to look at others interests before our own. I encourage you to strive to point the guys around you to Christ, not to yourself. Be intentional in all your interactions to honor God.
Don’t Treat Guy Friends Like Your Girl Friends
The dynamics of guy-girl friendships are different from girl-girl friendships. We can tell our close girlfriends everything, and text them everyday without it being weird. However, with guy friends, we must be careful – doing these kinds of things can easily make it seem like we have feelings for a guy, and can create a deeper & unwanted attraction/connection.
When we hang out or communicate with a certain guy often, it communicates that we like them. Evaluate how much you communicate with guy friends. Texting and chatting is totally ok, but be careful. Are you always texting him first? Do you text each other every day? In group settings, do you two always talk together by yourselves? Spur him on to godliness, even if it means communicating less.
Hebrews 10:24 // Let us consider how to provoke one another to love and good works,
Surrender All Guys & See Them as Brothers
Sometimes when you’re friends with a guy, feelings develop. You think this guy is super awesome, but don’t know what to do because he seems to only see you as a friend, or hasn’t made “a move.”
I encourage you to surrender all the guys you know to the Lord in prayer, even if you don’t have feelings for them. Give them wholly to the Lord, and ask Him to help you see them as brothers.1 Timothy 5:1-2 says: Don’t rebuke an older man, but exhort him as a father; the younger men as brothers;the elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, in all purity.
When you surrender guys to God in prayer, it helps you have the right mindset – you’ll remember that you’re both in God’s hands, and that if any guy is meant to be more than a friend, that will happen according to God’s perfect plan.
In a world where guys are put down when they behave like true men, all guys need encouragement. When a guy holds the door open for you or offers to carry something for you, genuinely thank him. Encourage the guys around you to be men, inspiring them with the word of God & words of life.
Proverbs 27:17 says: Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens his friend’s countenance. Strive to sharpen your guy friends, and encourage them in godliness. This is so important and needed!
I hope & pray that this post has been an encouragement to you in navigating guy friendships. Strive to honor God first & foremost in all you do, and uplift the people around you! We are called to be salt & light. 😉
What’re some things you’ve struggled with concerning guy friendships?
Which of these tips was most encouraging to you, and why?
How will you promote godliness to the guys around you?
For my blog post on tips for when you have a crush, click here.
Purity can often make people feel uncomfortable or confused. What does it mean? How do we live it out? In this post I want to dive into some practical ways to live out purity in your own life.
Before I dive into this post, I want to remind you of something: purity isn’t a checklist. It’s not something that we can live out perfectly because we aren’t perfect. God’s Word describes purity in Psalm 119:9:
How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word. (emphasis mine)
Purity starts in our mind, as I talked about a couple weeks ago in the first part of this blog series. However, it doesn’t stop there. We must live out what we know to be true.
I don’t know your past, but God does. If you have messed up and sinned in any way, including in purity, there is forgiveness for you. Romans 3:23 tells us that we have all sinned & fall short of God’s glory. Then Romans 6:23 says that the wages of our sin is death – yet, God has given us a free gift through Christ Jesus – eternal life. Come to the Lord and confess of your sin, and ask Him for a new heart. Ask Him to come into your life and to save you from your sin. Believe that Jesus died for you and that He wants you to have eternal life. You can live a lifestyle of purity.
With all that said, let’s dive into four tips for living in purity!
1. Know God’s Word
Knowing the Truth of God’s Word sets us free! (John 8:32) Getting into the Word daily is so important, and it helps us live in purity. When we face situations where we are tempted to compromise, we will know God’s Word and be better able to make God-honoring choices. Daily set aside time to spend with the Lord, and memorize verses and passages of Scripture. This is the most important part of living in purity – it all begins with knowing God & His Word and growing in our relationship with Him!
Psalm 119:11 // I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.
2. Establish Boundaries
Boundaries are very important to living in purity. Think about it: if we don’t establish certain boundaries and limits, we will go and do however our heart desires. Jeremiah 17:9 tells us about the sin that is in all of our hearts: “The heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly corrupt: who can know it?”
While there may not be any specific Bible verses/passages that say we must establish boundaries, they are very important. Romans 13:14 says: But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, for its lusts. (emphasis mine)
We should be careful how we interact with members of the opposite sex. If we aren’t careful & don’t have boundaries, we can get into sinful situations. God calls us to be holy, as He is holy, and boundaries help us to practically do that.
A few boundaries that some embrace are to hang out with guys in groups, not be alone with them at night/in a car, and not to put yourself in situations where there would be provision to fulfill the lusts of the flesh. These are a few ideas to consider; most importantly, I encourage you to think about situations where you or others would be tempted to compromise your purity, and make a point to stay away from those kind of situations by establishing boundaries.
3. Remember God’s Good Design for Sex & Intimacy
As we read the Bible, we see that God created intimacy & sex to be something that is saved for marriage. When people take it and use it outside of marriage, trouble always seems to happen.
1 Corinthians 6:18 says: Flee sexual immorality! “Every sin that a man does is outside the body,” but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
Sex and intimacy is a beautiful and wonderful thing, but it is meant for marriage, to be an act between husband and wife. When you remember this, and that God calls us to holiness, it will help you remember the beauty of saving sex for marriage.
If you have compromised your purity, remember that God forgives and is always merciful. Whether or not you have compromised in the area of purity and sex, you can start walking on the path of purity today. Learning about God’s good design is super helpful in walking in this path.
There is so much more to learn on this topic, more than I can share today. If you are interested in learning more about God’s design for intimacy and sex and relationships, I highly recommend checking out Girl Defined ministries, and specifically, their book, Love Defined!
4. Repent & Turn from Sin
Daily we must allow God to search our hearts and know them, pointing out any and all sin. We can daily pray Psalm 51:10: “Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within me.”
Purity isn’t merely setting up guards, trying on our own strength to be holy & refrain from sex. It’s daily letting God cleanse us from sin, crying out to Him, “make me holy, as You are holy.”True holiness comes from denying ourselves and our sin, asking God to cleanse us and give us strength to live righteously. Daily ask the Lord to search your heart and show you your sin, and then repent of it. Ask Him for strength to live victoriously over sin.
Purity isn’t a checklist. These tips aren’t meant to be something that you must legalistically cling to, and following them won’t necessarily keep you out of sin or tempting situations. However, as we daily strive to seek God first, establish boundaries, remember God’s perfect design for intimacy and sex, and repent and turn from sin, we will grow in God and in holiness! I’m going to leave you with this encouraging passage to inspire you to seek the Lord first, turning from sin to a path of holiness. We’re in this together, sister. ❤
Hebrews 12:1-2 // Therefore let us also, seeing we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, lay aside every weight and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising its shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
When have you been tempted to compromise your purity?
Purity is such an important topic. It’s a word that we as Christians likely hear a lot about, but what does it really mean?
Starting today, I’ll be doing a blog series on purity, and the various ways that we, as young women, can walk in it. Today’s post is going to be all about your mind, where purity starts. Let’s dive into today’s post!