Why It’s Important to Pray for Your Future Husband (Purity Series pt. 4)

For the other posts in this series, click here.

Praying for your future husband is something that is so exciting and wonderful for us as single women to do. We get to pray for the one that we’ll one day be married to, and already honor him, although we haven’t entered into a relationship with him yet.

Why is it important to pray for your future husband, you might wonder? Well, there’s a few reasons why, and I want to share them with you today. 🙂

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4 Tips for Living in Purity (Purity Series pt. 2)

Purity can often make people feel uncomfortable or confused. What does it mean? How do we live it out? In this post I want to dive into some practical ways to live out purity in your own life.

Before I dive into this post, I want to remind you of something: purity isn’t a checklist. It’s not something that we can live out perfectly because we aren’t perfect. God’s Word describes purity in Psalm 119:9:

How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word. (emphasis mine)

Purity starts in our mind, as I talked about a couple weeks ago in the first part of this blog series. However, it doesn’t stop there. We must live out what we know to be true.

I don’t know your past, but God does. If you have messed up and sinned in any way, including in purity, there is forgiveness for you. Romans 3:23 tells us that we have all sinned & fall short of God’s glory. Then Romans 6:23 says that the wages of our sin is death – yet, God has given us a free gift through Christ Jesus – eternal life. Come to the Lord and confess of your sin, and ask Him for a new heart. Ask Him to come into your life and to save you from your sin. Believe that Jesus died for you and that He wants you to have eternal life. You can live a lifestyle of purity.

With all that said, let’s dive into four tips for living in purity!

1. Know God’s Word

Knowing the Truth of God’s Word sets us free! (John 8:32) Getting into the Word daily is so important, and it helps us live in purity. When we face situations where we are tempted to compromise, we will know God’s Word and be better able to make God-honoring choices. Daily set aside time to spend with the Lord, and memorize verses and passages of Scripture. This is the most important part of living in purity – it all begins with knowing God & His Word and growing in our relationship with Him!

Psalm 119:11 // I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.

2. Establish Boundaries

Boundaries are very important to living in purity. Think about it: if we don’t establish certain boundaries and limits, we will go and do however our heart desires. Jeremiah 17:9 tells us about the sin that is in all of our hearts: “The heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly corrupt: who can know it?”

While there may not be any specific Bible verses/passages that say we must establish boundaries, they are very important. Romans 13:14 says: But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, for its lusts. (emphasis mine)

We should be careful how we interact with members of the opposite sex. If we aren’t careful & don’t have boundaries, we can get into sinful situations. God calls us to be holy, as He is holy, and boundaries help us to practically do that.

A few boundaries that some embrace are to hang out with guys in groups, not be alone with them at night/in a car, and not to put yourself in situations where there would be provision to fulfill the lusts of the flesh. These are a few ideas to consider; most importantly, I encourage you to think about situations where you or others would be tempted to compromise your purity, and make a point to stay away from those kind of situations by establishing boundaries.

3. Remember God’s Good Design for Sex & Intimacy

As we read the Bible, we see that God created intimacy & sex to be something that is saved for marriage. When people take it and use it outside of marriage, trouble always seems to happen.

1 Corinthians 6:18 says: Flee sexual immorality! “Every sin that a man does is outside the body,” but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

Sex and intimacy is a beautiful and wonderful thing, but it is meant for marriage, to be an act between husband and wife. When you remember this, and that God calls us to holiness, it will help you remember the beauty of saving sex for marriage.

If you have compromised your purity, remember that God forgives and is always merciful. Whether or not you have compromised in the area of purity and sex, you can start walking on the path of purity today. Learning about God’s good design is super helpful in walking in this path.

There is so much more to learn on this topic, more than I can share today. If you are interested in learning more about God’s design for intimacy and sex and relationships, I highly recommend checking out Girl Defined ministries, and specifically, their book, Love Defined!

4. Repent & Turn from Sin

Daily we must allow God to search our hearts and know them, pointing out any and all sin. We can daily pray Psalm 51:10: “Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within me.”

Purity isn’t merely setting up guards, trying on our own strength to be holy & refrain from sex. It’s daily letting God cleanse us from sin, crying out to Him, “make me holy, as You are holy.” True holiness comes from denying ourselves and our sin, asking God to cleanse us and give us strength to live righteously. Daily ask the Lord to search your heart and show you your sin, and then repent of it. Ask Him for strength to live victoriously over sin.

Purity isn’t a checklist. These tips aren’t meant to be something that you must legalistically cling to, and following them won’t necessarily keep you out of sin or tempting situations. However, as we daily strive to seek God first, establish boundaries, remember God’s perfect design for intimacy and sex, and repent and turn from sin, we will grow in God and in holiness! I’m going to leave you with this encouraging passage to inspire you to seek the Lord first, turning from sin to a path of holiness. We’re in this together, sister. ❤

Hebrews 12:1-2 // Therefore let us also, seeing we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, lay aside every weight and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising its shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Let’s chat!

When have you been tempted to compromise your purity?

Which of the 4 tips was most encouraging for you?

How will you start living in purity, today?

Why I Stopped Watching “Anne with an E”

I LOVE Anne of Green Gables, thanks to a friend of mine who told me about the movies a year or so ago. 😉 I fell in love with the movies and am currently reading book 4 in the series.

Last year, Netflix started a show called “Anne with an E.” It’s a very modernized version of Anne of Green Gables, and they made numerous alterations to the books and original story.

Despite these changes, I really enjoyed the first season – the actors were all spectacular, the was setting GORGEOUS, and the filming was amazing. And can I just say, GILBERT! If you know anything about AoGG, enough said. 😉 There were a couple questionable things in 2 of the episodes that made me uncomfortable, but I decided that I would try out the second season, and if these kind of things continued, I would stop watching the show.

I was disappointed after watching most of the second season. Let me just say, I don’t mind how the show strays from the story-line, it doesn’t particularly bother me. However, when they do things that are against God’s Word, along with some things that were not-so-great in the first season, I simply cannot keep watching/supporting the show. In season 2, they did something that I do not support in any way.

One of the characters is homosexual. Well, he has desires to be, and likes guys, and they support him. Anne believes that love looks different for everyone and whatever kind of love you have, whether you are straight or gay, that should be supported. She even talks about this in one episode.

You might be thinking, okay, it’s just one character, and you can fast forward through any scenes that aren’t good. However, I don’t think I’m going to continue watching this show unless things improve.

Ephesians 5:3-4 says: But sexual immorality, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not even be mentioned among you, as becomes saints; nor filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not appropriate; but rather giving of thanks. (emphasis added)

I thought about continuing to watch the show, but I honestly didn’t even really enjoy the second season much anyways. Plus, God’s Word says to not even mention sexual immorality among you. This means that we shouldn’t watch it, speak of it, think about it, or do it. “Anne with an E” obviously supports gay people and homosexuality, and God’s Word doesn’t.

Let me make this clear: I love gay and homosexual people, and I believe God does too. He sent Jesus to save ALL people, not just the straight people. John 3:16 says: For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life.

I don’t, however, support their sin. It’s wrong according to God’s Word. (For more on God’s design for romantic relationships, check out this post) I can’t watch Anne with an E the same way knowing that there’s a character on there who is homosexual. It’s against God’s Word, and even if there’s just a hint of it in this show, I know it’s something I shouldn’t watch.

I encourage you to be careful what you are watching and allowing into your mind. I know that there are some really great shows and movies out there that have homosexuality in them, and I want to encourage you to chose to refrain from watching those shows. God calls His people to be holy and pure, and not participating in, agreeing with, or thinking about sin. Even if you go through those scenes of sexual immorality, whether it be with a man and a woman or with people of the same sex, is it worth it? You shouldn’t have to compromise your morals for entertainment.

You are called to be set-apart and holy, so I encourage you to think before you watch.

1 Peter 1:13-16 // Therefore prepare your minds for action, be sober, and set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ— as children of obedience, not conforming yourselves according to your former lusts as in your ignorance, but just as he who called you is holy, you yourselves also be holy in all of your behavior; because it is written, “You shall be holy; for I am holy.”

Romans 12:1-2 // Therefore I urge you, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service. Don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God.

Philippians 4:8 // Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think about these things.

Matthew 7:13-14 // “Enter in by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many are those who enter in by it. How narrow is the gate, and restricted is the way that leads to life! Few are those who find it.

More posts on television/movies/entertainment:

To Watch or Not to Watch?

// Why I Won’t be Watching Love, Simon (or most movies these days) //

Why I Don’t Watch Many Mainstream Movies (Why I Don’t Series Pt. 1)